3 Tips for Overcoming Negative Self-Talk
“Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love”
We all have internal dialogue running through our minds, sometimes this is helpful but more often than not we can be mean girls! We tell ourselves we are stupid or not good enough, when was the last time you said to yourself that you did good or you look amazing?
We give our friends and loved one’s compliments so why is it so hard to do the same for ourselves?
We all have internal dialogue running through our minds, sometimes even racing and replaying the same old story.
How you talk to yourself matters. Our thoughts create our beliefs and our beliefs create our actions. As Abraham Hicks puts it “a belief is just a thought you keep thinking”, imagine how powerful you could be if you started creating positive thoughts about yourself!
When I first started observing how I was speaking to myself I was shocked at how nasty I was to myself.
I wouldn’t speak to any of my friends in that manner and to realise I had been speaking that way about myself for years!!
That was the moment when I decided to change how I was talking to myself; I had the choice to keep belittling myself or to be kind to myself. We all have the power within us to change the narrative. It's about knowing how to get started.
I have set out a three-step process that helps me to overcome negative self-talk:
1)Observe your thoughts: Notice when you are being hard on yourself or making negative statements about yourself.
2) Challenge the thought: Is the thought really true? Is it helpful? Sometimes our negative thoughts can hold us back from things. If we can learn from it great, if not it's time to move forward.
3) Replace the thought: If the thought isn’t true replace it with something that you know to be true. If the thought isn’t helpful and you want to move forward replace it with a thought that will move you in the right direction.
I hope you find this useful and you can start being kinder to yourself. Let me know if this helped you in any way. Remember if you wouldn’t say it to your bestie you should not be saying it to yourself.
Cheryl xoxo